The mind of a young person

I often think that college is the time where we seem to do the most thinking about our future....As a young college student and aspiring Lawyer, I often drift off into deep thought about my goals, aspirations and future endeavors. At times I get mad at myself for not fulfilling my true potential and not stepping outside the shadows of shyness and modesty. But its hard because life has a way of making sudden changes and alternatives routes that you didn't expect to take. For example, I wanted to transfer to VCU for this Fall Semester but life had other plans for me here at Virginia State, so I decided to stay. I felt that VCU could open up a better venue of opportunities but I realized that wherever God decides to bless you, it doesn't matter where you are, it only matters in that which lies in your inner ability. So with that being said, I'm learning to stir up the gifts that I was blessed with and strive to make the best of them in my tenure at Virginia State. If there's one thing I've learned most through life's experiences, its learning to take "risks". That's inclusive to love, relationships, goals, dreams, internships etc. When I  first came to Virginia it didn't dawn on me until my mom and cousins dropped me off that I was almost 7 hours away from home with no family or friends. I was a Freshman at the time, youngest child and a mommas boy (still a mommas boy lol). But I learned to have faith and to make my family proud. And I am confident in saying that I have been doing just that since I've been here at Virginia State.

       Those are some thoughts of a young person...now lets talk about "helpless romantics". I'm sure we've all came across the thoughts of meeting our "potential mate" in college. Only problem is, if we're meant to meet that person, how are we going to be able to do so if we're constantly distracted by meaningless people who we so passionately cater our time to. That was the most proper and clean way I could say that but if you have half a brain then you know what I'm trying to say lol. One thing I'll never forget is something someone tweeted the other day. They said "Don't go looking for love, let love find you". Patience is a very tough virtue to have but is something we all must inquire in order to maintain some forms of cleanliness until we meet that potential one. Now I'm not suggesting anyone to be the purest fruit in the tree (lol which isn't bad) but to at least hold yourself together until that right one comes into your sight. What better feeling could one experience then the one of someone that won't hurt them?. Deep right?
Also, for those of you who are currently dating, if you have any detrimental doubts about your significant other, chances are, you aren't meant to be!(at least for now) sucks right? I know.

Although I may write blogs about love, I don't really search for it. anymore at least. I've just come to accept the fact that if it's meant to happen then it'll happen. Often times men tend to lose their value but I'm learning to hold on to mine. Now I know I'm not the most charming or perfect guy, but I hate having the feeling that many girls believe that guys like me are too good to be true; therefore we don't exist in their eyes. Subsequently, they settle for less and are left damaged and unhappy...(Same thing with guys). Sometimes I wonder though, how can't women see guys like me? I often get asked the question "why are you single? I mean, your intelligent, cool, funny, understanding, protective, not too emotional but you open up, don't speak too much but when you do its meaningful, your an attractive guy" etc My reply is simple; "I'm just focusing on uplifting myself and getting my degree and becoming a lawyer so I could take care of my mom and family. I don't feel bitter towards love, I'm just not as prepared to give love to someone else at this point in my life". There's a lot of things I want to do in life such as help people, travel the world, build my resume and become a humanitarian (believe it or not). And to be honest, I don't think I've met someone that's for me as of now...But  I believe when I do, I'll feel it inside and I'll know. But for now, there's a lot of work to be done and I hope to make the best of it while I'm still here.
I kind of feel hidden from the world to a certain degree, and I feel that one day I'm going to be able to show that potential to the world and it'll be in awe. I just hope that I can help maintain humility, fidelity, unity  and peace in the process of doing so. And if that one comes then it comes, if not, I hope that I can at least live with the satisfaction that I made the best of my life and lived it the right way; and helped my family and friends and people in need along the way.

Cherishing your Loved Ones

Just a little over an hr ago I was in a great mood until the clock hit 12am and my mood shifted drastically; I realized that this was the day that I've dreaded for the past five years. But I digress for the moment. I wrote this blog specifically to those who have lost loved ones and to those who have loved ones living at the moment. I've noticed that having a sibling can be very challenging at times especially with all of the disagreeing and fighting that goes on. But most importantly you have each other; and that's PRICELESS! As the old saying goes, you don't know what you have until its gone so you cherish every moment like its your last. Now that doesn't mean you have to live life drunk, or lustful, or carelessly, it really means that you take each day and you use every second, minute and hour you possibly can to your fullest and you appreciate while you still can. I've learned at a young age that you should learn to love & appreciate life and your family  while you still can before a tragedy hits you and forces you to open your eyes and live in the harsh reality of a loss.

      On this day five years ago, God called home someone very dear to me and I've never been right since; and I don't write this blog for sympathy, but to raise awareness to people to appreciate their loved one and cherish them; Because truth be told, we live in a cruel world and all you have in this life is God and  your family.

R.I.P Dean William Britton 12/15/86-05.23.06
I love you big bro & I can promise that your memory will never be in vain!

As time goes by & by, I hope to someday see you on that other side!

Basketball Jones

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xiBR6NC8pT4&feature=relatedSo Schools officially over and as the academic challenges cease, I find myself faced with new obstacles on the horizon.This summer I have a few things to accomplish but I find myself approaching a crossroad in my life. I recently had a friend ask me if I wanted to play in a Pro Am Summer League back home in New Jersey. Now for those of you who aren't familiar with it, the Pro Am is a Summer basketball league where some of the best high school, college, overseas and even International players play to improve their game. I'm in no way intimidated by the competition, I just don't know whether or not I have the same love or passion for the game as I used too.
And yes I was another NBA hopeful in high school that had dreams of making it big.I was 17 then. I'm 20 years old now and I've been so accustom to playing school boy, I've forgotten what it feels like to really enjoy the game. I've also been praying that if Basketball is not in God's plan for my life, that he take the desire away from me. This may sound bitter but this is how I honestly feel; I've watched so many of my friends make it with their basketball goals that I've grown tired of working out and trying to improve my game. I feel that I lost that strong sense of motivation. I believe a lot of that has to do with the fact that I'm out of shape and I need to work on my game. Did I mention that the tournament starts at the end of June?

I'm usually pretty reasonable with myself when it comes to accepting things that aren't for me. But I just don't know why I can't let go my love for the game. It almost feels like I'm incomplete until I get to play again someday. Oh well, we'll see where this goes. I guess this is the time when I must be patient. I'm very picky with my patience and yes I know, I shouldn't be.

Can we really be friends?

       
         I recently had a conversation with two of my friends on whether or not a guy and girl could genuinely be friends without feelings surfacing. Now I'm sure you all might say the same thing. Of Course!.... right?  Well....I believe that it can be done. It just depends on a few things: how the friendship started, what type of friendship you have, and whether or not you have a history with one another (in terms of relationship). What I mean by how the friendship started is this: "How did you become friends; was it through elementary school. were they a family friend or what?...I ask because people tend to have this "friends with attachments" type of friendship nowadays... But hey,whatever floats your boat...A lot times a guy and girl can't have a friendship simply because of one thing: infatuation!  People make it seem like you can't be friends with an attractive individual. I mean let me be honest for a minute though; I have some very attractive female friends...I see a lot of great qualities in them but I don't want anything to conflict with our friendship because I've made that mistake once and its not a pretty site once all falls down...But enough with the sob story..Bottom line, if you can't handle being friends with someone attractive then how are you going to function in the workplace when it's strictly business? I get a lot of compliments from my lady friends for being an an attractive young man, and I humbly appreciate it but I don't take that and turn it into something else...

Personally, I would love to have more lady friends in the near future but most importantly I'm looking for positive people who can help build me up. Don't get me wrong, Friendship is essential to building any healthy relationship. Self Control is also important... You have to be willing to contain yourself and love people as human beings in order to have wellness in life and friendships.(I really sound like my Team Sports instructor Smh HATED that class) but I digress. I was always taught that you can learn from a baby. So imagine how much more you could learn from the opposite sex.???

"Relax yaself girl peace at plan" Tribe Called Quest

Love & Relationships

So this is a topic I have to get off my chest before I can go any further. Love & Relationships! That's right we've all had them. I recently have gotten out of a relationship, but I won't get into that, but I can tell you what I've learned and what experience I've gained through various lessons. But before I get into that, I wonder, in this day and age, what do we as a young community look for in a significant other? I look around and I see some of the corniest brothers getting the most play and lying like a rug to a lot of these young girls out here...And I'm not hating, believe me, I always give credit when credit is due; But it seems so easy to manipulate the minds of people these days.Smh..... If you take nothing away from this entire blog, remember this: "The key to a persons body lies in their mind; once you capture the mind everything else is child's play.
Now, as far as my experiences go, I've learned to be more patient for the right one and to not jump into something without having a full understanding of what I'm getting myself into..In addition, I learned to also not have expectations and to not second guess myself...Remember, If you have to second guess yourself, then it's more then likely not meant to be. Most importantly, I've learned to LOVE myself and appreciate myself as a young man FULLY before I can love and give myself to a woman. As of right now, I'm learning to not be so stubborn with myself; but to love & appreciate life to its fullest....
So with that being said, Love your self and be very careful who you give yourself too; because if you keep giving a piece of your self to different people, when the times comes to meet your soul mate, what will you be able to give him/her?????

Mothers Day!

I would first like to wish a Happy Mothers Day to my Mother (Whom I adore so dearly) and to all of you Mothers of all ages (and those who are expecting a child/children as well)...


Because I'm not fit to speak on Womanhood, I want to take out this time to celebrate you with a poem that I made for my mom but I'll share it with all the mothers out there..


             "Precious mother, loving light

             for nine months you held me tight,

              From a world of chaos and pain,
              But despite it all, you carried me without shame''
              "You jeopardized so many goals and aspirations to birth me
              You never broke any promises and never tried to hurt me"

              "you never cared whether I would've been a boy or girl,
             you just made sure that God brought me into this world
           and the love you've given is far brighter then any diamond or pearl"

           " So today I celebrate you as loud as I can,
            I gracefully bow, and promise to take a stand
            and to be the best child of yours as I possibly can"....

Hope you yall enjoy =)

There's a Reason for Everything

First off, if your reading this, I greatly appreciate it...

          With that being said, lets talk about the perception of the media. Now I know your all thinking, "what does that have to do with the title"? Let me explain...You see if you've ever noticed, everything on television serves a purpose and more then for your own personal entertainment. For example, I'm sure we can sit here and think of countless songs, advertisements, commercials/infomercials that we all grew up on as kids. No matter how long ago it was, we can still remember them distinctly like the back of our hand. That's because society is very strategic in influencing the global masses. Don't get me wrong, "Count Dracula" on Sesame Street taught a lot of people how to count. So the media has some good in it. But The first thing I believe the media is designed to do is to create perceptions into your mind. You may ask, "how is this done". Its simple...Attention, Attraction, Persuasion and  Repetition. The way you draw in a buyer for any product is through attention first. You have to put something or someone out there to draw the future buyer in. This is done through attraction. Why do you think athletes, musicians, actors and models are the forerunners for company's products? BECAUSE THEY KNOW HOW TO ATTRACT YOU!! (Sorry for the caps)..This is how trends are started in society, because people see their favorite entertainer wearing something and causes them to want the same. Then you wonder why your broke or can't pay your light bill...Smh
Persuasion is easy...They make the product seem so reliable that you must have it...I watched a Subway commercial a few months back and it had NBA Basketball Player Blake Griffin in it. This was around the time Blake Griffin was dunking on everybody every night! So he was (and still is) at that time a hot commodity. So when I saw him promoting the Subway commercial It made me realize something. "They" always choose the hottest trending topic to attract the most attention. Sadly, this may sound simple, but this is EXACTLY how your pockets get raped!
The Last is repetition. Almost every ignorant song I've heard in 2011 alone so far, I've ended up listening to simply because the radio played it so much that it got stuck in my head. Like I can't tell you how many times I've listened to Racks on Racks! lol smh...This is exactly how they get you. They play certain things and advertise things until it entices you to give in..You ever notice the new trend..You know...They get you to buy more and save less? give more and more and more and lose so much?....you get the point I hope...But this brings me to my last note, After repetition, you have, (Drum roll please), "A mass hypnosis of the Global Mind"....
With that being said, stay "in sync" with yourselves and stop smoking a "J" and trying to imitate "Cole" from Martin...Oh I didn't mention subliminals? Dammit! lol